While in college I took mathematics courses like – “MATH 101 – Math for Life” and “STAT 200 – Statistics for Liberal Arts Majors”. My husband on the other hand, graduated from a top 5 business school with BS in Actuarial Science. I never even had heard of that major before we met. Even today when people ask me what my husband does I say, “Don’t ask me. I’m just a girl [tee-hee tee-hee]!”
Of course I’m trying to be a funny guy, but much like that ill-fated barbie doll, math really isn’t my strong suit. I always assumed because I had trouble with Chi-Square tests I was doomed when it came to investing, finances and budgeting.
But Personal Finance really isn’t about math. Because even with a math-nerd husband we still found ourselves not doing the right things when it came to money.
Personal Finance, at least in its beginner stages, is about commitment, sacrifice and self-control.
When we decided we didn’t want to live paycheck to paycheck any longer and wanted to get control (FULL control) of our finances. I researched all kinds of Personal Finance advice, read the blogs, learned all the lingo. Worked out the budget, planned for our irregular expenses. Basically, I prepared for almost a full year for the commitment we were going to make to be debt free.
It had been working out great. We’ve been sticking to “THE PLAN”. We no longer use credit cards. I actually cook almost all our meals. We have a small but growing emergency fund that we continually add to. We gave up the Y membership, soda, name-brand coffee…
I have been waiting on the inevitable though.
And so we come to our first true test in our quest to be debt free:
The family TV broke this week. It’s dead and it’s un-fixable.
I applaud and am in awe of those families with kids who limit TV watching to 30 minutes a day or the like. We are not that family. While I don’t worry for a minute that the kids watch “too much TV” – they don’t. I do use the TV as a crutch when I need to get something important done and having an almost 2, 3 and 4 year old under my feet is too much. After the kids go to bed, my husband and I are *gasp* also TV junkies. I admit it. We don’t spend our evenings reading each other Shakespeare, we often sit slack-jawed, immersed in our favorite mindless entertainment.
In much the same way the TV was is a “crutch” so were the credit cards. In the past we would have run out and bought a new TV AND put it on our credit card. We had a very serious conversation (I’m not joking) discussing what to do with this dilemma. Things like, “Will we survive without TV?” and “After investing 5 frustrating years, will we never find out what’s really going on on LOST?!”, were said.
In the end we decided to do the grown-up responsible thing, not raid the emergency fund, and save up to buy a new TV with CASH.
In the meantime, my husband has agreed to don a smoking jacket and get a pipe. Me and the little children will gather at his feet nightly by the fireplace, our chins resting on his knee, looking up at him with our angelic faces while he reads Dickens (my favorite!) to us…
(Full Disclosure – We do have a dinky old 19″ TV we can drag out if the above fantasy doesn’t work out.)
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March 26, 2010 at 12:45 pm
How nice! Enjoy those fun story nights!
You are correct, personal finance has more to do with commitment, being consistent, and growing wealth one step at a time.
March 26, 2010 at 3:29 pm
Uggh!
I definitely agree! And even though I’m a nerd-husband (minus the husband part
, and while I am (extremely, extremely!) happy to be done all my math courses, I definately appreciate the simplicity of finance (well, at least personal finance).
And yes, it is a sacrifice! In my own life, it is only now, after about three years of slaving the work, that I’m seeing the fruits of labour (with my stock market investing).
One thing that I can really say to anyone is that it is NOT a “Be All End All” type of feeling – you may feel like you are sacrificing now, but the effect of your efforts compounds, and the amount of work you spend today, will be half as much down the road, to a point where you can let your work really take off, and you can sit back and appreciate the ride to get there.
Because it is really rewarding.
Kunal Kalsani @ HelloStockMarket.com
March 26, 2010 at 4:25 pm
You had me at “slack-jawed.” Which is how I approach anything with numbers. I took “Math and Politics” pass-fail in college. I am the person at restaurants who gets all sweaty when it’s time to figure out the tip. But you give me great hope that keeping my financial ducks in a row is manageable and doesn’t need to be overwhelming! Good for you for biding your time on the TV. Your alcohol consumption might go up, but I bet you’ll look back on this “unplugged” period with fondness.
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March 27, 2010 at 9:45 am
You are a better woman than me. We would have bought the TV. My kids are total TV kids, and while I am not proud of the amount of tv they watch, they do get exercise, eat right, go to bed at 8pm. Happy healthy kids…with a tv habit!
Have you tried Craigslist or Freecycle, as an inexpensive crutch while you save up?
Oh, and as for LOST…..(I am a total addict to this show!)….you can always watch it on line. Personally, I think they are hitting us a little over the head this season with the good/evil thing. Also, DarkUFO has a great website for this, with incredible recaps!
March 27, 2010 at 1:41 pm
Augh! “No TV” would be tough! Good thing you do have that spare!!!
I hate watching TV (I too was a TV junkie, watching reruns of Gilligans’ Island and the Brady Bunch was when I realized I hit rock bottom, hmm or as it the Bonanza reruns when I was a pre-teenager and later in college). I wasted a lot of life on that junk!
Still, today we do watch “Lost” and get movies on DVD from the Library to watch (I even listen to CNBC and Jim Cramer every now and then).
Most of my financial habits I learned by living with my parent and grandparents, so no I don’t think personal finance is totally about math either. I think a big part of it is how you were raised (or at least that’s the case with me)…
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March 28, 2010 at 9:27 am
Kudos to you… can’t tell you how jealous I am. I have been campaigning for a year to eliminate the cable bill. Unfortunately and oddly, the wife is the sports fanatic in the family and, well frankly, a happy wife is a happy life….
March 28, 2010 at 6:45 pm
Love the title! I used to hate math before taking a class on how to teach it to kids. I’ve learned a lot, but agree that personal finance and math are not always related. Will power, organization, and assessing “needs” from “wants” is what it all boils down to. Of course it helps if you can add and subtract properly
March 28, 2010 at 7:36 pm
I often joked that I was an English major because, after crunching the numbers, that’s how I’d avoid the most math classes. I’m actually not joking about it at all, if there was a way avoid taking math again, I was going to take it.
So when I say that I LOVE PF, people who know me have a little brain spaz as they try to figure out why on earth someone as allergic to math as I am would like finances. It’s simple. I hate math. I love playing with my money. Money math is not the same as math math. Therefore, PF wins!
On the TV dilemma: could you supplement with streaming (free!) online? I mean, I know some people hate watching tv on the computer but I love it, and if it’s just the two of you, watching tv on the little screen on your laps is kinda fun.
March 31, 2010 at 7:57 pm
I’m the same way! I was Psychology major so I couldn’t avoid that statistics class. Luckily, I had an awesome professor who knew almost all of us in that class (it really was called “STAT for LA majors”:)) were DREADING the requirement and was really patient. I ended up with an A!
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